Has the romance gone out of Honeymoons?
Honeymoons are surely the most romantic interlude of our lives. But when it comes to actually planning what should truly be a ‘once in a lifetime’ holiday, are we losing our way, and dare it be said, missing the point perhaps?
With an almost endless choice before us, and with the ever burgeoning population of lesser-spotted ‘Bridezilla’ evolving from competing on their respective wedding days to striving for the biggest, wildest, most extravagant honeymoon, it is all to easy to forget why you are going in the first place!
Firstly, where should a honeymoon take place? In these days of the “global village”, the world is truly a smaller place than it once was. Generations gone by perhaps lusted after a week in Benidorm, or a wet weekend in the Lakes, whereas today, for some, it’s not a honeymoon unless you need bug spray and come back with jetlag. Caribbean or Far East? USA or Africa? Indian Ocean or Australia? Even within each region, the choice is boggling. Which of the innumerable Caribbean all inclusive hotels? Which of the array of equally beautiful luxury Maldives resorts? And doesn’t just about everywhere seem to say they’re perfect for honeymooners? Is that even possible?
The second question is when do you go? Some couples delay their honeymoon for a few days, some for a few weeks, some indefinitely. Sometimes the financial and emotional demands are simply too much for our fragile newlyweds. Perhaps a week of nesting with a spot of DIY in the new home will suffice? Either way these days, far fewer of us find ourselves leaving our receptions to the tinkling sound of tins on strings.
Perhaps the most important question we should ask is why we need to go in the first place. In days gone by, the honeymoon would precede the move into the marital home, a chance for the happy, normally young couple to bond emotionally, physically, to consummate. But with couples these days more frequently co-habiting prior to nuptials, often for years and commonly now also with their children in place already, has that reasoning become irrelevant, dated even?
It could perhaps be the best advise to put as much thought into a honeymoon as one would into the wedding itself. What do you plan on getting from this trip? What would make it special, personal, intimate? A candlelit dinner or some free fizz on arrival just doesn’t cut it. Neither does it have to be in complete isolation. As nice as overwater bungalows in the Maldives are, perhaps it is healthier for one’s relationship to be out exploring, discovering, not just places, but each other?
Unfortunately, there is not a golden ticket for the perfect honeymoon, just like perfect marriages don’t come off the shelf either. Fortunately however, choice is never limited and there is a honeymoon for every budget with everything from exploring off the beaten track to escaping to a private island. Much like marriage, follow your heart and don’t do it until you’re sure of the commitment. Make your trip as individual as you can, customise, create a tailor made honeymoon! We don’t all need luxury honeymoons, but we do all deserve perfect honeymoons. And as with people, for honeymoons beauty is in the eye of the beholder.